Words with myself

Question Everything, Especially Yourself

Join us for an insightful episode of Words With Myself, where we explore the importance of not just questioning external information, but also our internal beliefs. Wrapped in a continuous effort to decipher your truth, the episode emphasizes how our beliefs are subtly shaped by a lifetime of curated data from society, the internet, and the government. We delve into the challenge of questioning deeply held beliefs and the emotional discomfort that comes along with it. It asserts that the defensiveness and agitation we experience when our beliefs are challenged, usually point towards beliefs we haven't truly internalized. We discuss the painful yet transformative experience of questioning those views, which might be rooting us in negativity or detrimental patterns.In this episode, we illustrate this point with an intimate look at the struggle with depression. We confront the popular belief that it is an insurmountable, inborn affliction and explore an alternative viewpoint of depression as stuck trauma. It's a viewpoint that if realized much earlier, it could have spared much suffering.By the end, we arrive at a ground-breaking insight. Not only do you often hold baseless beliefs, but questioning and investigating these beliefs, can lead to a profound change in your life. So, tune in as we unlock the door to wisdom, by daring to unspool the threads of our belief system, questioning everything, especially ourselves.

Living Your Life Now

Welcome to another episode of 'Words With Myself', where we emphasize the importance of living in the present moment. Yet, it's not just about being in the now, but purposively being there. Today, we explore the power of intentional living—consciously deciding to pilot our own lives rather than just mechanically going through the motions.This episode uncovers the potency of being intentional in your everyday activities. From listening to our podcast to your daily chores or meal times. We delve into the concept of presence and how it plays an integral role in shaping our attitude toward even simple daily events.We discuss the consequences of detachment from our own actions and how often, we end up becoming observers of our existence rather than participants in our life. This episode sheds light on the transformative potential of being intentional in your actions, and how this can revolutionize your experiences, boost your understanding, and reinstate your connection with your life.By pouring thoughtfulness into each action, ensuring every act has a purpose, you can not only enhance your experiences but also increase the appreciation for small joys in life. Take for instance, choosing to be intentional and present while walking or eating doesn't just improve the experience, but may potentially lead to improved health and happiness. We urge you to reflect and audit your days, to bring more awareness to how you spend time. Recognize the choices you made, interactions you had, and their impact on shaping your day, and ultimately your life. This episode empowers you to ask the crucial question - Are you making the choices that you genuinely want to make? Listen in and take a step toward an intentionally driven life rooted in the present.

See With Vision

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself, a series dedicated to personal development and self-understanding. This episode narrates my journey from discovering who I am to realising the importance of having a clear vision.Reflecting on my past year, it was a precious time of exploration and openness to new experiences. Wandering without a map and uncovering my true desires through the unknown allowed me to formulate a clear direction in life.Understanding my desires and having developed the drive to pursue them, I recognise now, more than ever, the need to have a solid vision guiding my actions and choices. A sense of purpose can spotlight specific opportunities pivotal to achieving your goals. However, it is crucial to hold a flexible mindset and remain open to redirection as our desires might evolve with time.Living in alignment with your values, following your desires instead of succumbing to external pressures, is the primary focus of this episode. The importance of envisioning and tirelessly striving for the life you love is discussed along with the negative impacts of living a life designed by others' expectations.We also dive deep into the complicated dynamics of parental sacrifices and expectations and their consequential impact on a child's life. Emphasising the importance of having your children live the life they truly desire with no pressures or indebtedness.If you find yourself stuck between duty and passion and discontented with your current life, remember, it's never too late for a change. Accepting your choices, taking responsibility, and making peace with them is your way to the life you truly want.This episode is an assertive reminder that your life is entirely your own. How you decide to live every day counts. Embrace the power of choice confidently and wholeheartedly to bring about the life transformation you always sought.Join us for an insightful discussion to gain a fresh perspective on life choices and realise the power of living in alignment with your true self.

Moving Beyond The Darkness Towards Fulfillment

Welcome to this engaging episode of "Words With Myself," where I deeply reflect on my journey to personal fulfillment and self-appreciation. Through the lens of my experiences, I explore the highs and lows, the trials and triumphs, the pain, and the passion that have shaped my path.
Candidly casting a light on mental health challenges, I talk about my long periods of depression that made happiness seem unattainable for a long time. The turnabout is the result of a fiercely fought personal battle, countless challenges, heartaches, and getting up every time I fell. All of these have culminated in a life where I wake up happy and fulfilled, every day.
A critical lesson that I emphasize, often overlooked, is not only living in the present but also cherishing it. This concept is a significant antidote to negative tendencies, such as the constant pull towards a depressive state or a perpetual state of worry about what might go wrong in the future. The episode reiterates the essence of life - change and how to navigate through its unpredictability with peace and gratitude.
The narrative extends into relationships, where the fear of losing someone can turn into an unhealthy obsession, potentially sabotaging the relationship. The discussion plants the seeds of the Buddhist principle of non-attachment, emphasizing that without the fear of loss hovering over us, we can wholly and freely appreciate and celebrate our relationships.
In the final part of the episode, I delve into the merits of gratitude, even in instances when life seems uninspiring or challenging. There is always something, however small or significant, to be thankful for in life. It could be a challenging period, food, water, or even something as seemingly insignificant as a comfortable pillow.

Change and Un-Change

We all change, we learn new information, have different experiences, gain new insights, but could it be that we just grow closer to who we always were? I am not convinced the soul changes, I believe that our true selves are the constant, and that change happens at the level of the ego. Be open to change, but know that ultimately, all change should bring you closer in alignment with who you are, not further away.

Offensive Defences

Sometimes, the tools we develop to protect ourselves, end up being the very things that hurt us the most. Our defence mechanisms were all developed at a point in time where we believed that it was the only way, our only choice. An important step in healing and growing is to understand that these things we once developed to protect ourselves, may not be suitable for you now and actually might be hurting you more than the initial situation that caused you to develop them.

Healthy Communication and Victim Mentality 2

Part two of the communication episode is about the importance of your communication. How what you say, in turn, creates and affirms the beliefs that shape your reality.

A Step To True Freedom

Living a free life is a life of sovereignty. Living your own life, on your terms, with your own beliefs and ideas, making your own choices. There is a responsibility that comes with this, you must be 100% accountable, and you must allow yourself to embrace your journey without benchmarking it against others. Set yourself free, and embrace acceptance in the truest form it needs to come, self-acceptance.

Healthy Communication and Victim Mentality 1

Communication is a difficult thing to master, and much of our speech often reflects our attitude towards life. I am very careful about what I say, and I am often criticised for being too picky with language. But so much of how someone thinks and feels can be picked up from subtle cues in their speech, things they may not even know about themselves. Switching to accountable language is a fundamental first step to clear communication.

Science VS Spirituality

We are living in a time where science is believed to negate ancient wisdom, that spirituality is nonsense and only for the unscientific. Yet more and more, we are seeing science coincide with ancient wisdom, not disprove it. The two do not have to be mutually exclusive, one does not disprove the other.