Words with myself

Self-Tinted Glasses

Welcome to episode 7 of the Words With Myself podcast, where we discuss life's everyday mysteries. This episode is about perception, capturing the essence of the saying 'looking at life through rose-tinted glasses', and how our experiences and emotional states dramatically shape how we see the world.Join us as we delve into the fascinating concept of differing perceptions, evidenced in our day-to-day experiences. We talk about riding a roller coaster as an analogy, emphasizing how different individuals may experience the same event in entirely different ways based on their internal make-up or emotional state.We further discuss how your emotional state can either enhance or ruin your day. From experiencing negative emotions due to minor inconveniences or letting traffic ruin your day, to focusing on the positives and appreciating the beauty of life, we analyze how different perspectives impact our overall experience.The episode further explores how one can almost become imprisoned in a negative state, perceiving everything as hopeless and gray, purely based on the emotional lens they choose to wear. We ponder on how one's perspective clicks together when things go right and how doubt sets in when things go awry, illustrating the impact of our mental state on our perceptions.We also delve into how clouded perspectives from the past or future can prevent us from enjoying the present moment. As we guide you through a more mindful way of thinking, we stress the importance of focusing on what is happening right now to shift your present disposition positively.In the light of psychology, spirituality, and philosophy, we indicate how we often create our own form of hell by scrutinizing and punishing ourselves, eventually leading us into a dark cloud of distorted reality.In sum, we invite you to reflect on these 'glasses' that you wear – how your past experiences and emotional state may be blurring your perception of reality. This episode will encourage you to shift your perspective, challenge your perception, and experience life in a new and more enriching way.

Relentlessly Relentless

Welcome to a thought-provoking episode of 'Words With Myself' where we venture into the delicate balance between feelings and actions in pursuing our goals. Drawing from a personal tale of triumph in the face of discomfort, this episode emphasizes the importance of perseverance, endurance, and commitment.In this reflective narrative, the speaker embarks on a stroll in the woods, against the backdrop of inclement English weather. Despite the gloomy forecast and subsequent downpour, the speaker remains undeterred, choosing to continue the planned journey. A fortuitous change in climate sparks sunshine, transforming the initially grim journey into a vibrant walk in the woods.This episode investigates the valuable insights that arise when feelings, while validated, do not immediately drive actions. Our emotions, although profound can sometimes trick us into opting for immediate gratification and overlook long term well-being. The speaker's resolution to continue the walk irrespective of her initial reluctance, beautifully demonstrates this paradox.Our journey through life often mirrors this walk, filled with discomforts that test our resolve. Exploring this at length, the speaker urges listeners to champion their objectives even when they seem challenging, embracing the universe's tests, and steering clear of complacency.Above all, this episode serves as a gentle reminder of staying committed to our goals, even when our immediate feelings suggest otherwise. By pushing through resistance and focusing on the bigger picture, the speaker suggests we can overcome hurdles, improve our overall satisfaction, and experience the rewarding life we desire.

Speech With Care

Welcome to another episode of 'Words with Myself'. In this episode, we take a deep dive into the realm of language and communication. We focus on examining the transformative power of words and how they shape our world, our perceptions and our very reality. Throughout history, words have portrayed significant importance, often mirroring the chants, spells and incantations of old, signifying an ability to manifest and shape our realities.
However, in contemporary society, careful articulation and thought-provoking speech patterns seem to be fading, replaced with slang and less precise, easily dismissed terminology. Language is rapidly evolving, but with shortened sentences and rapid speech, do we still uphold the same precision in our expressions? The episode sheds light on how our language prepares the lens through which we view the world.
We touch upon the many aspects of language, from its use in politics to emotional manipulation in film and music. With examples from George Orwell's '1984', we attempt to navigate the labyrinth of linguistic manipulation. We remind you that everything you say, and every word you use is akin to a spell, shaping your universe.
This episode also discusses the influence of self-deprecating language on our consciousness and encourages the flip of negative statements into positive ones. Equipped with examples from different walks of life, we inspire a change in outlook towards oneself and our world.
Join us as we delve deep into the power of words and their effect on our lives, outlining the importance of being mindful of what we say and how we say it. Our words, after all, are our magic!

Question Everything, Especially Yourself

Join us for an insightful episode of Words With Myself, where we explore the importance of not just questioning external information, but also our internal beliefs. Wrapped in a continuous effort to decipher your truth, the episode emphasizes how our beliefs are subtly shaped by a lifetime of curated data from society, the internet, and the government. We delve into the challenge of questioning deeply held beliefs and the emotional discomfort that comes along with it. It asserts that the defensiveness and agitation we experience when our beliefs are challenged, usually point towards beliefs we haven't truly internalized. We discuss the painful yet transformative experience of questioning those views, which might be rooting us in negativity or detrimental patterns.In this episode, we illustrate this point with an intimate look at the struggle with depression. We confront the popular belief that it is an insurmountable, inborn affliction and explore an alternative viewpoint of depression as stuck trauma. It's a viewpoint that if realized much earlier, it could have spared much suffering.By the end, we arrive at a ground-breaking insight. Not only do you often hold baseless beliefs, but questioning and investigating these beliefs, can lead to a profound change in your life. So, tune in as we unlock the door to wisdom, by daring to unspool the threads of our belief system, questioning everything, especially ourselves.

Living Your Life Now

Welcome to another episode of 'Words With Myself', where we emphasize the importance of living in the present moment. Yet, it's not just about being in the now, but purposively being there. Today, we explore the power of intentional living—consciously deciding to pilot our own lives rather than just mechanically going through the motions.This episode uncovers the potency of being intentional in your everyday activities. From listening to our podcast to your daily chores or meal times. We delve into the concept of presence and how it plays an integral role in shaping our attitude toward even simple daily events.We discuss the consequences of detachment from our own actions and how often, we end up becoming observers of our existence rather than participants in our life. This episode sheds light on the transformative potential of being intentional in your actions, and how this can revolutionize your experiences, boost your understanding, and reinstate your connection with your life.By pouring thoughtfulness into each action, ensuring every act has a purpose, you can not only enhance your experiences but also increase the appreciation for small joys in life. Take for instance, choosing to be intentional and present while walking or eating doesn't just improve the experience, but may potentially lead to improved health and happiness. We urge you to reflect and audit your days, to bring more awareness to how you spend time. Recognize the choices you made, interactions you had, and their impact on shaping your day, and ultimately your life. This episode empowers you to ask the crucial question - Are you making the choices that you genuinely want to make? Listen in and take a step toward an intentionally driven life rooted in the present.

See With Vision

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself, a series dedicated to personal development and self-understanding. This episode narrates my journey from discovering who I am to realising the importance of having a clear vision.Reflecting on my past year, it was a precious time of exploration and openness to new experiences. Wandering without a map and uncovering my true desires through the unknown allowed me to formulate a clear direction in life.Understanding my desires and having developed the drive to pursue them, I recognise now, more than ever, the need to have a solid vision guiding my actions and choices. A sense of purpose can spotlight specific opportunities pivotal to achieving your goals. However, it is crucial to hold a flexible mindset and remain open to redirection as our desires might evolve with time.Living in alignment with your values, following your desires instead of succumbing to external pressures, is the primary focus of this episode. The importance of envisioning and tirelessly striving for the life you love is discussed along with the negative impacts of living a life designed by others' expectations.We also dive deep into the complicated dynamics of parental sacrifices and expectations and their consequential impact on a child's life. Emphasising the importance of having your children live the life they truly desire with no pressures or indebtedness.If you find yourself stuck between duty and passion and discontented with your current life, remember, it's never too late for a change. Accepting your choices, taking responsibility, and making peace with them is your way to the life you truly want.This episode is an assertive reminder that your life is entirely your own. How you decide to live every day counts. Embrace the power of choice confidently and wholeheartedly to bring about the life transformation you always sought.Join us for an insightful discussion to gain a fresh perspective on life choices and realise the power of living in alignment with your true self.

Moving Beyond The Darkness Towards Fulfillment

Welcome to this engaging episode of "Words With Myself," where I deeply reflect on my journey to personal fulfillment and self-appreciation. Through the lens of my experiences, I explore the highs and lows, the trials and triumphs, the pain, and the passion that have shaped my path.
Candidly casting a light on mental health challenges, I talk about my long periods of depression that made happiness seem unattainable for a long time. The turnabout is the result of a fiercely fought personal battle, countless challenges, heartaches, and getting up every time I fell. All of these have culminated in a life where I wake up happy and fulfilled, every day.
A critical lesson that I emphasize, often overlooked, is not only living in the present but also cherishing it. This concept is a significant antidote to negative tendencies, such as the constant pull towards a depressive state or a perpetual state of worry about what might go wrong in the future. The episode reiterates the essence of life - change and how to navigate through its unpredictability with peace and gratitude.
The narrative extends into relationships, where the fear of losing someone can turn into an unhealthy obsession, potentially sabotaging the relationship. The discussion plants the seeds of the Buddhist principle of non-attachment, emphasizing that without the fear of loss hovering over us, we can wholly and freely appreciate and celebrate our relationships.
In the final part of the episode, I delve into the merits of gratitude, even in instances when life seems uninspiring or challenging. There is always something, however small or significant, to be thankful for in life. It could be a challenging period, food, water, or even something as seemingly insignificant as a comfortable pillow.

Change and Un-Change

We all change, we learn new information, have different experiences, gain new insights, but could it be that we just grow closer to who we always were? I am not convinced the soul changes, I believe that our true selves are the constant, and that change happens at the level of the ego. Be open to change, but know that ultimately, all change should bring you closer in alignment with who you are, not further away.

Offensive Defences

Sometimes, the tools we develop to protect ourselves, end up being the very things that hurt us the most. Our defence mechanisms were all developed at a point in time where we believed that it was the only way, our only choice. An important step in healing and growing is to understand that these things we once developed to protect ourselves, may not be suitable for you now and actually might be hurting you more than the initial situation that caused you to develop them.

Healthy Communication and Victim Mentality 2

Part two of the communication episode is about the importance of your communication. How what you say, in turn, creates and affirms the beliefs that shape your reality.