Words With Myself

We often view situations in our life as far more significant than they really are, that job interview, the public speech you need to make or the sale you want to make with a client; all these things can seem world ending if they don't end up successful but in truth, it doesn't matter. Other opportunities will come, other people and other chances, in the grand scheme of things and a few years down the line, this will be but a blip in your life.

More of a practical episode than usual, but just coming back from holiday I didn't want to miss an episode and I didn't have much time to prepare. I realised that I needed to get back into the swing of things by going back to scheduling my days in order to get the most out of my time, I have been feeling like I have no time lately and with having so much to do, I want to schedule my days so that I have more time to do everything I want to do.

Being yourself can be hard at times, it shouldn't be, but it is. Naturally, most of us want to make others happy and want people to like us but this can come at a heavy price. We change who we are to please others, we change to fit in and to make our lives easier so we meet less resistance from society. Change is not to be feared, but we need to make sure we are changing for the right reasons.

An easy life may seem like the ideal life, but everything that is meaningful is always hard. To live a meaningful life we must do the hard things, this means voluntarily taking on responsibility. Leaders, Parents, Charity workers and community leaders, roles like this are highly meaningful but also require taking on the burden of large amounts of responsibility. Choose to live a meaningful life , don't run away from responsibility and challenge, instead seek them out. 

Is putting others before yourself really always the best thing to do? In this episode we discuss self-prioritisation and when we help ourselves, we help others. Selfish is a label many fear being applied to them, this fear isolates people into a state of unrelenting giving to others no matter the cost to themselves. You are not helping anyone by burning yourself out trying to solve all the worlds problems and not giving yourself a moments thought. It is time to prioritise you. 

If you look at your life and the components within it, it may seem natural that what you pursue is the opposite of what you fear. Naturally we avoid all the things we fear and think we are no good at, this satisfies our self-preservation requirements and makes us feel safe. However, there are many times in life that we are required to do the things we fear in order to get the things we want, sometimes we must run in the opposite direction of comfort and pursue strength instead. What are you running towards and what are you running away from?

... But don't force it to drink. If you want to create real change in the world, you must inspire. Personal change leads to localised change. Inspiring your friends and family to see the positive impact of the changes you are making will cascade to the people in their lives too. You can change the world by inspiring as many people as possible, by being the example of the good you want to see in the world and proving that it is possible to those with doubts. Instead of telling people what they need or should be doing, focus on your own growth and commitment and let that shine through to everyone. 

How often do you let the fear of failure stand between you and the things you want to achieve, how often are you too paralysed with anxiety to do the things you want to do. It is time to let yourself live, without the fear of being judged, without the fear of letting people or yourself down. It is time to wage an assault on the fear of failure. 

Being content is the killer of motivation and inspiration, your self-esteem may be happy under the guise that you are fine as you are but your intrinsic desire for purpose will cause you to suffer. We often know we can do more, know we could be better if we worked a little harder, tried a little more but instead of getting out of our comfort zone and leaning into the pain of inadequacy, we plateau in our comfort. Push yourself, Challenge yourself, fight to achieve more, you will be far more fulfilled in your life than latching onto temporary happiness. 

You may love the idea of something more than you love the actual thing, this can be true for people, hobbies, careers and almost everything we consider something we want to obtain. Desire can blind us and cause tunnel vision, only allowing us to see the positive side of the things we want while ignoring the whole host of negatives and the journey it may take to obtain.