Words With Myself

Sometimes it can be hard to stay true to what we believe, desire and feel. Sometimes we may find ourselves always trying to please other people and it is a form of deception born out of a necessity to be liked paired with the belief that our true self is not good enough. When you create an identity based off of lies in order to receive love/validation, you will always carry the weight of feeling like nobody loves the true you and feel like you have to hide it from everyone. The more authentic you can be, the more honest you can be with yourself, the more loved you will truly feel. 

In the modern world, the internet, social media, entertainment is more prominent in our lives than ever. It can seem like from the moment we wake up to the moment we go to sleep we are occupied with something, even meditation is something we schedule to do. Many of us hate to be bored, but boredom can fuel and inspire your next best project, mission or purpose .

There is only so much studying/questioning/thinking/meditating you can do before you eventually have to work on integrating the lessons learned and put them into practice. This is the stage I find myself in currently. As Spring is in it's height, a time for new life, new patterns and new modes of being presents itself, I am finding myself very much in tune with the seasons at this moment and am spending a lot of my time and energy integrating and apply the lessons learned from my long winter solitude.

You can have anything you want, but not everything. Many things we desire come at the cost of a great sacrifice. Some of those sacrifices conflict meaning you must choose the path which you most want to walk. That is not to say that you can't be blessed in many ways, but rather, you must be blessed within the rules that govern our game.

We have probably all heard the expression "Treat others as you want to be treated" but what about the opposite? Do you treat yourself as good as you treat others? For me, I always have a tenancy to put others first, to prioritize others needs over my own and say things to myself that I wouldn't dream of saying to others. We have to change this narrative and be our own advocate, giving ourselves what we so frequently give others and treating ourselves with love and respect instead.

Sometimes we are looking for answers but we have the answer in front of us, we just don't want to hear it. Maybe it's a change we don't want to make, something we don't want to sacrifice or a trauma that we think is too painful to face. Whatever it is, searching for things to work on as a distraction from the real issue is not going to work in your favor, if anything, it will only mean that you have more problems to deal with and less energy. No matter how terrifying it may be, the ramifications of not working on the thing you know you should be working on will be much worse in the long run.

Recently, I have come in to contact with people that are really good listeners and they made me realise that I have a lot of improvement to make on how I listen to people. My tendency to try and solve problems as soon as they arrive can mean I am more focused on looking for a solution than listening when someone is telling me their problems. Silence is golden and sometimes it is only in the absence of a response will people really tell you what they need to say.

We place so much pressure on ourselves to be good at things. At some point in our lives we forget how to play and get lost in the serious. I have previously fallen into the trap of treating everything I do like it's work, like I have to do it instead of doing it because I enjoy it. Life is too short to not do the things we love or do them in such a way that means we no longer love them.

Self-Acceptance is something that most of us make a conscious effort to improve, but how far can you take it. What limits have you imposed on your acceptance physically, mentally and spiritually. We often restrict ourselves and filter who we are to be more palatable to other people but what would your life look like if you could be truly 100 percent authentically you with total confidence. Why does that seem like something outside the realm of possibility? It's not! It may be a long road, but a prerequisite to peace is acceptance.

Too many of us are ruled by the opinions of others, we do, say and act in whatever way we feel will be most well received by others. Treating life as a popularity contest rather than carving our own lanes and doing what we love. There has been far too many times in my life that I have let others dictate the way I live my life and it has taken years of work to build the strength of character enough to say no, I will live the way I want to live and do the things I want to do because that is what is best for me. I know my intentions and I know who I am, do you?