Words With Myself

Drop In The Ocean

As humans progress and globalization begins to dramatically shift how society operates, I feel like some incredibly valuable things are being lost in the process. We have become more connected than ever yet also more individual, we are individual people connected to a network of billions. 

Perception Disception

Sometimes we get caught in the trap of thinking we know how things are. Things are constantly shifting and changing yet it can be easy to get stuck in our ways and hold onto certain perceptions. Under scrutiny, a lot of these perceptions will fall apart and are contaminated with bias and individual experience. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we are limited to our own experience and that by changing our perspective we can greatly change our reality. Get out there, experience, re-evaluate your opinions, beliefs and preconceived ideas of what reality truly is. 

Together In Our Individuality

Humans, we are all very different from one another. We have all experienced things differently, have been influenced by different things and have walked different paths. Yet sometimes we find ourselves competing in a popularity contest to validate that we are good enough, smart enough, funny enough, rich enough and fundamentally that we are worth love. If you truly love yourself and look only to yourself for validation, no one can take that away from you. How people perceive you, what people think of you and whether or not you are in peoples favor will constantly change, stability comes from within.

Fake it ’til you make it

Preparing for the worst case scenario has it's place, but that place is not every situation you find yourself in throughout your entire life. When we are always expecting the worst, we increase our chances of that outcome occurring. It is that scenario where you plan a big trip in your car and then think how it might break down, then it does surprise surprise and we curse the universe for enacting our prophesy.

Clarity

Moments of true clarity had started to become a rarity in my life, I always had something to distract me, make me feel better or otherwise dilute unwanted feelings and experiences. This year, I am dedicated to removing all the things out of my life that are reducing my clarity and clouding my true feelings and thoughts. This year will be a year of clarity.

Your Reality Is Your Reality

I am sure that we have all experienced, seen or repeated the "New year, new me" phase at the start of the year. It may be a tired old cliche, but it is a symbolic opportunity to take inventory of our lives and see which patterns we are playing out, which things we are holding onto and whether we are living in accordance with our true self. Each day is a new beginning, and we can always decide to start fresh. Sometimes we just need to take the time to reflect and assess our lives. For me, this year feels like a true rebirth, an opportunity to let go of the old and begin with a new chapter.

A Different Me To Who I Want To Be

Sometimes we can outgrow ourselves, our mentality and mindset may have adapted but our patterns of behaviour remain the same. How do you change in a world that expects and dictates to you who you are? How do you become someone new? Change can be terrifying and painful, but it is far more painful to live an inauthentic life where we pretend to be someone, we are not just for the sake of keeping up appearances. Change is the only constant after all, let yourself move on from who you were into who you want to be.

Suffer by choice

Life is suffering. Learning, growing and experiencing all involve elements of suffering. Knowing this, we can choose what we want to suffer for, to give meaning to our anguish and have a reason to go weather the storm. What is worth it for you?

Help them help you

Despite what your ego may want to think, you need other people in life. We all need help, we all need support. We can't be experts of everything and it is important to ask for help when we need it. Everyone wins when you ask for help, other people feel good about themselves for having helped you and you have more time to focus on the areas of your life in which you truly want to invest in. You may be out of practice but it is time to get better at asking for the support you need.

Saving Life For Later

Sometimes we can be so focused on investing in ourselves and in our futures, that we forget that our life resides within the present moment. Of course, you can't always have everything you want the second you want it, but you can live a life that you are happy to live now.