Words With Myself

Know it to be true

As Henry Ford once said, "Whether you think you can or think your can't, you are right." He knew that the beliefs you hold will dictate your reality. Despite the fact that I disagree with modern mainstream spirituality suggesting that manifestation is this cure-all magic problem solver that will make all your wishes come true, I do know just how powerful manifestation can be. Many of us curse our power to manifest, mostly because we often find ourselves manifesting terrible things for ourselves due to our negative beliefs, it is time to change that. 

Fear is the limit

Fear is the barrier to action, it can prevent us from doing and being all the things we want. Yet, fear can also be our biggest source of motivation and strength, it is all about what we do with our fear and how we process it. Instead of letting it control us, we can let it motivate us to be better prepared, more alert and more focused. The more we get used to dealing with the situations and things that frighten us, the less control that fear will be able to exert.

Learning who to trust

Learning to trust yourself is a tricky business, how can I trust myself when I get things wrong so often? How can I trust myself when I don't have all the answers? Well, my trust lies with my ability to listen, learn and grow, my trust lies with my intuition and with the fact that things happen as they are meant to happen even if I don't see it at the time. So really, I trust myself to be the vessel rather than to be the water, I don't know where I am headed or what my destiny will look like, but I will ride the waves and do it with a firm belief that I am exactly where I am meant to be.

Paradise Lost

Paradise, a tropical island with a fresh coconut? Not always. Paradise is found within, even when everything is going your way and you are living someone else's dream life, it can feel like hell to you. Sometimes, it takes us being exactly where we want to be to realise that it wont change how we feel within.

Learning how to play

As someone who has been caught in the trap of taking life too seriously for a large portion of it, I am beginning to go through the uncomfortable process of re-learning how to play. I realize that a lot of the fear and anxiety I hold caused by this way of living is also preventing me from enjoying life at the moments where I really should be able to sit back and enjoy the profits of the hard work. Instead, I am caught up in thinking that the work is all there is and I see how wrong it all is, but learning to play can be easier said than done.

What If?

The "What If" game, is a game most of us will be familiar with. I am sure we have all asked ourselves on many occasions "What if this doesn't turn out the way I want it to?". The problem with playing the what if game all the time, is our attachment to outcome and trying to submit life to our will. I propose we stop playing the what if game and instead play the "Let's see what happens" game instead.

Walk Your Own Path

With access to an abundance of information, it can be hard to feel like there is true value in our own knowledge. But the knowledge we have acquired through experimentation, play and exploration is the only thing we can know for sure is right for us. There is a time to learn from others and listen to the wisdom others have to offer, but one can never truly say that have learned until they have put it to practice and tested/applied it in their own life.

Negotiation Negation

Sometimes we can feel really motivated to do things and other times it can be the last thing we want to do, even if it is something we know is the right/good/beneficial thing for us to do. Motivation much like happiness, is a temporary and fleeting feeling, sometimes we can be really motivated and other times we can have no motivation to do anything at all. The question remains, how can we do things we know we should be doing when we don't feel like doing it? My answer, do it anyway. Make it non-negotiable and remove the option or any escape routes. I cannot rely on motivation or feeling good in order to make the right choice, what I can rely on is my persistence and discipline that I am going to turn up regardless of how I feel because I know that it is good for me.

Comparison Confusion

We can often get caught up in the trap of comparing ourselves to others, feeling like we are not enough. Whether it's they have more stuff, more money or more friends, there are an endless amount of ways we can make ourselves feel insignificant by comparing what we have against others. Instead we should be expressing gratitude for the incredible gifts we have and focusing on how we want to experience life instead of how we can feel more worthy of approval.

Attract instead of chase

Attraction can be confused with passivity, idly sitting there waiting for things to happen instead of actually doing something about it but this is far from the case. When I set a goal, instead of desperately searching for ways to accomplish said goal and seeking a path, I observe and see which opportunities present themselves to me. When setting a goal, the universe will always accommodate by putting challenges and obstacles in your path that will help you to create what you want. These situations, tasks or challenges can be incredibly subtle, but once you stop seeking they will become very clear.