Words With Myself

Learning who to trust

Learning to trust yourself is a tricky business, how can I trust myself when I get things wrong so often? How can I trust myself when I don't have all the answers? Well, my trust lies with my ability to listen, learn and grow, my trust lies with my intuition and with the fact that things happen as they are meant to happen even if I don't see it at the time. So really, I trust myself to be the vessel rather than to be the water, I don't know where I am headed or what my destiny will look like, but I will ride the waves and do it with a firm belief that I am exactly where I am meant to be.

Paradise Lost

Paradise, a tropical island with a fresh coconut? Not always. Paradise is found within, even when everything is going your way and you are living someone else's dream life, it can feel like hell to you. Sometimes, it takes us being exactly where we want to be to realise that it wont change how we feel within.

Learning how to play

As someone who has been caught in the trap of taking life too seriously for a large portion of it, I am beginning to go through the uncomfortable process of re-learning how to play. I realize that a lot of the fear and anxiety I hold caused by this way of living is also preventing me from enjoying life at the moments where I really should be able to sit back and enjoy the profits of the hard work. Instead, I am caught up in thinking that the work is all there is and I see how wrong it all is, but learning to play can be easier said than done.

What If?

The "What If" game, is a game most of us will be familiar with. I am sure we have all asked ourselves on many occasions "What if this doesn't turn out the way I want it to?". The problem with playing the what if game all the time, is our attachment to outcome and trying to submit life to our will. I propose we stop playing the what if game and instead play the "Let's see what happens" game instead.

Walk Your Own Path

With access to an abundance of information, it can be hard to feel like there is true value in our own knowledge. But the knowledge we have acquired through experimentation, play and exploration is the only thing we can know for sure is right for us. There is a time to learn from others and listen to the wisdom others have to offer, but one can never truly say that have learned until they have put it to practice and tested/applied it in their own life.

Negotiation Negation

Sometimes we can feel really motivated to do things and other times it can be the last thing we want to do, even if it is something we know is the right/good/beneficial thing for us to do. Motivation much like happiness, is a temporary and fleeting feeling, sometimes we can be really motivated and other times we can have no motivation to do anything at all. The question remains, how can we do things we know we should be doing when we don't feel like doing it? My answer, do it anyway. Make it non-negotiable and remove the option or any escape routes. I cannot rely on motivation or feeling good in order to make the right choice, what I can rely on is my persistence and discipline that I am going to turn up regardless of how I feel because I know that it is good for me.

Comparison Confusion

We can often get caught up in the trap of comparing ourselves to others, feeling like we are not enough. Whether it's they have more stuff, more money or more friends, there are an endless amount of ways we can make ourselves feel insignificant by comparing what we have against others. Instead we should be expressing gratitude for the incredible gifts we have and focusing on how we want to experience life instead of how we can feel more worthy of approval.

Attract instead of chase

Attraction can be confused with passivity, idly sitting there waiting for things to happen instead of actually doing something about it but this is far from the case. When I set a goal, instead of desperately searching for ways to accomplish said goal and seeking a path, I observe and see which opportunities present themselves to me. When setting a goal, the universe will always accommodate by putting challenges and obstacles in your path that will help you to create what you want. These situations, tasks or challenges can be incredibly subtle, but once you stop seeking they will become very clear.  

Playing the character

We can attempt to transcend our own humanity and escape from what we feel at times, but in the end, the truth will always come to light. You are here for a human experience and your feelings are yours, no matter how well you ignore them. Embracing and loving yourself means all of you, not just the parts that you deem are good but instead the entirety of the whole experience.

Silence Is Golden

Recently, I have been trying to part myself from a great love of mine, music. Not get rid of it entirely but try go throughout the day without have noise constantly persisting in my ear. I usually play music, a podcast or audio book all throughout the day and will have something to pair for each activity but I noticed that this was preventing me from accessing some feelings and thoughts I had when the music wasn't playing. In the void, in silence, I was able to feel my emotions much more deeply and even had ideas and thoughts flowing to me that usually I would have to meditate to experience.